A mom (we’ll call her Natalie) contacted me a few months back. This almost-adoptive mom and I had never spoken before. When I answered the phone, she was sobbing. It took a few moments to understand who was calling and why. This mom was at her wit’s end. She said, “Rachel, I don’t know you… Continue reading when you choose to send a child back . . .
Tag: foster care
deep waters
I’ve been thinking for a couple of months now how to put our foster experiences into words; how to do them justice. We have had such wonderful dealings with caseworkers and children and birth parents since we started a year and a half ago that I wanted to get the word out…that DFS is different… Continue reading deep waters
adoption decisions
I was reading a blog recently where an adoptive mom of eight just announced another adoption of two. There has been some backlash from her circle of influence. She feels the questioning and finger pointing already beginning. And I take pause. We have yet to feel that from our own person circle. Well, at least,… Continue reading adoption decisions
most uncool update ever
I don’t have any fun pictures. I don’t have anything very clever to say. I just feel like a big loser (and not in a good way) for not posting for so long. What has happened to me? I would use the excuse that I am a busy mom of seven now, but we all… Continue reading most uncool update ever
day seven update
Our initial growing pains seem to be subsiding. Thank goodness. I haven’t cried since Monday…that’s a very good sign. I know we will have more in the future, but the new children are blending into our routines very well–better than expected, actually. Joey’s chore is to sweep under our table after each meal. He is… Continue reading day seven update
ten more days
The TEN DAY countdown is on. A clarification to my adoption buddies: this is a referral out of the foster care system, here in Nevada. We are not completely sure of all the details…much like an international adoption referral. We will know much more after the HEART meeting on the 12th. If we are given the… Continue reading ten more days
the land of might
Two weeks from now is coming fast, It could be almost real. My quest for you is maybe done, I wonder how I”ll feel. I might be crying happy tears, I might be really sad. I might be full of heartache, or I might be really glad. I might be buying clothes, I might be… Continue reading the land of might
the waiting game
As I wait and wait and wait, here is what I want my children to know: *We are so excited for you to join our family. *Your brothers and sisters have been planning your arrival for some time now. *They have a whole list of things they want to teach you and show you. *At… Continue reading the waiting game
foster beginnings
I am oddly at peace since plucking out my last adoption post. Most of that peace came yesterday. We had yet to receive any placement phone calls since being licensed for foster care. And then yesterday, all of a sudden, I fielded five inquiries! Apparently, there has been a problem with the call system, and… Continue reading foster beginnings
arms wide shut
I had an “it’s not fair” week, last week. The infertility kind. Lots of crying. Lots of, “I don’t want any more kids.” Lots of angst and hostility toward my uterus. It was a pretty crappy week. In fact, if Adam had not kidnapped me to the mountains, I probably would have had a nervous… Continue reading arms wide shut